I was shocked because I have never been beaten before. He was calling me ashewo in-front of the kids. Although he later apologized, things were never the same. he continued until sometime around May this year when he gave me a black eye and my colleagues found out. I lied I had an okada accident but I knew they didnt buy my story. somehow my boss got to know and asked me if my husband did that to me. my boss always had a soft spot for me although he didn't say but deep down, i know he liked me. I couldnt lie to him so i told him that it was a mistake and that he has apologised. he was very livid and threatened to lock him up but i asked him to please let sleeping dogs lie cos i dont want to lose my home. When school resumed around September, We did not have enough money to settle the school fees for 2 out of our 5 kids. They started harassing and flogging my babies in school because of their fees, I cried my self to sleep daily. My boss noticed my unhappiness at work and asked me what was eating me up. I burst into tears uncontrollably and that was when he touched me for the first time, He took me into his office and shut the door, he wiped my tears and offerd me cold water before asking me to tell him what my problems are specifically if my husband hit me again. I explained everything to him and he told me not to worry, He wrote me a cheque of N120k and told me that its his way of assisting and that I should never cry again because of money. I knelt down to thank him but he pulled me up and instead kissed my forehead. honestly, it felt good but i stopped him politely when his hands started groping my breasts. he apologised and kissed me on the lips. I kissed him back and that was the farthest we went and please for the records, I did not sleep with him and I have never cheated on my husband. I paid my kids school fees and kept the remaining money in my account. my husband saw the alert in my phone when my 2nd son was playng candy crush with it and demanded to know where I got the money from, I told him I got the money from a micro finance company that i was doing daily contribution with but he didnt believe me and accused me of sleeping around. before i could speak up, he descended on me again and beat me and wounded me. he emptied the plate of yam porridge i was eating on my head. I have had enough. i tried to fight back but he was much more stronger than me and even beat me more. That was when i made the greatest mistake of my life, I picked up my phone in his face and called my boss explaining to him what is happening, That was the evidence my husband needed, he went straight to the room and started throwing my things down stairs from the veranda. Even the pots and kettle was not spared. He was shouting on top of his voice like a mad dog. Our whole neighborhood gathered, he was screaming and throwing my stuffs out telling the people that I was sleeping around and that our last two kids do not resemble him that I have been sleeping around. The humiliation I received that day killed me. Even my eldest daughter who is just 12 years old sided with him and was calling me a prostitute. I moved in to one of my neighbours house that night because my husband said its over. The next morning, some army men drove into our compound and descended on my husband. They beat him up so bad and humiliated him too before taking him away. My boss sent them. he spent close to a week there and was made to sign an undertaking never to hit me again. I had to beg my boss over and over again before he was released. he came home a different person. Ever since then, He has not spoken a word to me. the kids except the 2 youngest ones who are just toddlers seems to side with him. its almost 4 months now. he dosnt eat my food or come to our bedroom anymore, i serve his food daily but he dosnt touch it or provide anything in the house. He sometimes use his ow money to cook and the kids would rather eat his own because he spends more time with them at home because his rental business is at home. he has poisoned their mind against me. He sleeps with the children in their room. I regret everything that happened but i cant quit my job else those kids will be out of school and without a roof over their heads cos i pay the rent. I have gone on my knees countless times to beg him to forgive what happened and let us start afresh but all he would do is look me in the eye with so much hate and just walk away from the scene. I even offered to pay for a new house so we can pack out of the compound since we have disgraced ourselves there but he wouldnt say a word to me. I know the marriage is over. we are just living together. Christmas is around the corner and we travel always, I dont know how we would cope in the village because his people knew only his side of the story. they may send the womens group to harm me or something. the kids are really gearing up and looking forward to traveling home. I dont know how to tell them that we are not going to travel. I dont know how my husband will respond but i know for sure that traveling will be a very bad idea. I regret everything that happened. I feel as if I have used my own hand to destroy my marriage. If I didnt open up to my boss or collect that money from him, maybe, my marriage will still be standing. I dont know what to do. I feel lost and lonely. please what do I do? Do i allow them to travel alone and just provide their money for feeding and other stuff. What if they seize my babies in that village and insist that they wont come back home? what am i going to do? please I need my husband back. I even miss the beating he gives me. yes i said that. I was happier back then even with the beating than i am now. I have lost everything. Even my boss is no longer as friendly as he used to be because i didnt allow him to go further than kissing me. Please I need help.
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